Marriage is the symbolic recognition of our identity-two aspects of the same being. In the sacred marriage,what God has joined together is one and cannot be sundered by man. In marriage everyday you love and everyday you forgive.It is an ongoing sacrament-love and forgiveness. The most important aspect of understanding a relationship is that one partner has to become a soulmate with the other and it is a highly spiritual experience than that of a socially organized marriage.
A marriage is very different from a love affair. A love affair is very pleasurable as along as everything is agreeable but gets off when when it becomes unagreeable. Unfortunately nowadays people get into relationships that hardly gets translated into marriage. Everything has become a matter of convenience.
People in different careers do not want to leave their places of employment and the system of arranged/love marriages in India is taking a toll. What is forgotten here is that one by sacrificing for the other,is submitting to something superior to one self and is not losing his/her identity in any way.
The essential idea is opening your heart with compassion to the other (com means ‘with’ and passion means ‘suffering’) and suffering for the pain and pleasure of love and not for lust. In general we see the material aspect has transcended the spiritual beauty of marriage.
There is a general argument that arranged marriages are like a business deal and it is more appropriate to follow the bliss and make your choice rather than get arranged according to social order. But it is the relationship after marriage that is more important and the word love/arranged loses its meaning before it.
In the middle ages a favourite image that occurs in many contexts is the wheel of fortune.For example, if you are attached to the rim of the wheel of fortune, you will be either above going down or at the bottom coming up. But if you are at the hub you are at the same place all the time. That is the sense of marriage vow-I take you in health or sickness,wealth or poverty, going up or down. But I take you as my center, you are the bliss, not the wealth that you might bring me, not the social prestige, but you.
We often come across images of the circle in all kinds of architecture,both ancient and modern and even our wedding ring is a circle.What does that symbolize?
The word “SYM-BOL” itself means two things put together. One person has one half ,the other the other half and then they come together.Recognition comes from putting the ring together-the completed circle.
Today’s fast paced world makes marriage a challenge to be met with and long distance relationships are becoming unavoidable.It is very imperative for both the partners to stay together to identify and recognize the emotional needs of each other and the more time you give to a relationship,the better it becomes.
To sum it all up,marriage of two individuals is a very pleasant journey and transcends all other relationships if understood properly.
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Good post Mitrah and welcome amidst us :-).
Welcome to blog world and a good topic to begin with.
Hey mitrah,
It is a good account of your experience and understanding of married life. I have always considered life to be very simple, and tried to live it the simple day. Life gets more and more complex with each coming day and I have not yet managed to live my life the way I wanted. A partner is someone who takes you away from the complexities of life and makes it simple again, I am glad that I have one such person now. Things have never been so simple, I feel nothing but bliss. I guess all that I can hope for is for my partner to be mine forever...
welcome to the blog world! may ur stay be a happy one and may u make enw friends who will nag u with tag posts!
mitrah,
the concept of marriage may have all the halo effect that you have so nicely written. the reality of marriage life is like running a business. there is income/expense, work to be done, products to be maintained and send away, the supply chain has to be constantly taken care of and if the machinery falters, has to be fixed. it is a partnership business.
sometimes the partnership breaks down. it is better to call it quits than beating the dead snake. there is nothing wrong in that.
nobody can predict how a marriage will work out at the start. a partner is a gift. if each partner treats the other as they would like to be treated, the marriage will flourish. it is ever a two way street.
Welcome to the blogosphere. Nice but delicate topic to start with. I wonder whether everyone who is married realises this. Days are changing. Certain people get married just for the sake of others. Most of the marriages in countries like India, are forced upon. Though it is changing but not at a good speed. Mutual consent is very much needed for a long and happy married life. The sanctity of marriage will wither away if certain much needed precautions are not taken.
Thankyou Thennavan.I am happy to be a part of blogosphere as long as it takes less of my time.
Robbie,
Marriages are made in heaven.If the relationship is built on true and unconditional love,it can never go wrong.I wish you good luck in getting your very best from your partner always.
Thankyou for the kind welcome Ghost particle.Sorry for the late reply as I was busy with my kid.
phantom363,
I agree that marriage is a two way street.Life is getting very mechanical where every day is a rat race to win.There is definitely lot to be done but true love for each other can erase away the pain and suffering that can come along with it.As they always say"Success in marriage is more than finding the right person:it is a matter of being the right person".Problems in marriage come because one can show his worst to the other half.If one can come down and treat the other out of his/her defects
like a doctor to a patient, the relationship can be renewed and can be cherished for long.It will not take less than a moment to break a marriage and can be done easily but life gets messier any further.It is always godlike to forgive the other person and correct his/her mistakes and life can be very pleasant with the bond strengthened.However it is foolish to tolerate abominable treatments and loathsome behaviours where marriage into one becomes two different entities.
balaji s rajan,
Thankyou for welcoming me.This is a very personal but a very important topic as it becomes important to maintain a relationship. When failed, it can be a harbinger of doom and loss of peace for the entire family involved.Ofcourse,mutual consent is needed for a long,happy life and hope it is made possible everywhere.
Nice post there..and welcome!!
Surprised to see my blog in your blogroll. :-) Thanks.
I hope you meant "affair" when you said "love affair". Because when there is true love, there is sacrifice, compromises, adjustments etc and isnt that what needed in a commitment? Perhaps marriage can be seen as a fulfillment of love affair.
Welcome Mitrah,
It is really nice to see you here.
An apt topic to start off with and well written.
Sowmya
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