Marriage is the symbolic recognition of our identity-two aspects of the same being. In the sacred marriage,what God has joined together is one and cannot be sundered by man. In marriage everyday you love and everyday you forgive.It is an ongoing sacrament-love and forgiveness. The most important aspect of understanding a relationship is that one partner has to become a soulmate with the other and it is a highly spiritual experience than that of a socially organized marriage.
A marriage is very different from a love affair. A love affair is very pleasurable as along as everything is agreeable but gets off when when it becomes unagreeable. Unfortunately nowadays people get into relationships that hardly gets translated into marriage. Everything has become a matter of convenience.
People in different careers do not want to leave their places of employment and the system of arranged/love marriages in India is taking a toll. What is forgotten here is that one by sacrificing for the other,is submitting to something superior to one self and is not losing his/her identity in any way.
The essential idea is opening your heart with compassion to the other (com means ‘with’ and passion means ‘suffering’) and suffering for the pain and pleasure of love and not for lust. In general we see the material aspect has transcended the spiritual beauty of marriage.
There is a general argument that arranged marriages are like a business deal and it is more appropriate to follow the bliss and make your choice rather than get arranged according to social order. But it is the relationship after marriage that is more important and the word love/arranged loses its meaning before it.
In the middle ages a favourite image that occurs in many contexts is the wheel of fortune.For example, if you are attached to the rim of the wheel of fortune, you will be either above going down or at the bottom coming up. But if you are at the hub you are at the same place all the time. That is the sense of marriage vow-I take you in health or sickness,wealth or poverty, going up or down. But I take you as my center, you are the bliss, not the wealth that you might bring me, not the social prestige, but you.
We often come across images of the circle in all kinds of architecture,both ancient and modern and even our wedding ring is a circle.What does that symbolize?
The word “SYM-BOL” itself means two things put together. One person has one half ,the other the other half and then they come together.Recognition comes from putting the ring together-the completed circle.
Today’s fast paced world makes marriage a challenge to be met with and long distance relationships are becoming unavoidable.It is very imperative for both the partners to stay together to identify and recognize the emotional needs of each other and the more time you give to a relationship,the better it becomes.
To sum it all up,marriage of two individuals is a very pleasant journey and transcends all other relationships if understood properly.
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